(this may turn into a rant...soon. be warned)

Okay. Everyone knows what space is, right? Right. It's distance. It's both something and nothing. It's great when used in the correct way. We see this in art, we see it in our computer rooms, we see it in life itself. But you know, there's another type of space that is very, very similar.

People need space.

As much as we'd all love to run and bug and dig into someone's life, we can't, and we shouldn't. Why? Because we've got to give them this thing some people don't know about called "distance". Believe me. If someone has a problem and has the desire to share it with you, then be honored and step in cautiously. But there's no reason at all for you to barge in, expecting answers, when
1) the person probably doesn't have the answers, and
2) the answers don't correspond to your life questions, so you don't need them.

I know some of you are probably thinking, "Well, I care about this person a lot, and Iwantthemtobehappy" or something. Well, that's just ducky, but there's a thing called "reality" that people still don't know about. And in this thing that seems to surround us consistently, no one is happy every second of their life.

And some of you are probably thinking, "Well, I HAVE THE RIGHT TO KNOW" or whatever. Well, no, you don't. In fact, you don't have the right to know anything. There are no rights, earned or not, to know what another human being is feeling, wanting, thinking. You're not entitled to know all of their emotions. You might think so, or you might like to, but it's not a god-given.

And some of you are probably still thinking, "Well, I'm they're spouse/friend/family member and they should feel comfortable coming to me! GAH!" That has absolutely nothing to do with it. When people are in a bad mood, that's it. They're in a bad, bad mood. It's likely they'll tell you to fuck off. Or they have their own reasons for not telling you that's a choice of their own, and not to be taken personally by you. Or anyone else. Or whatever.

----And going on about that above paragraph real quick...When someone does come to you about a problem. Or they're feeling down. Or whatever... A helpful hint, support them. Seriously, people. That person is depending on you to help them out a bit, give them some advice, or lift their spirits a little.
In fact, that person has probably done that for you a few times.
Taking myself as an example, I'm a very closed person except with a few select people. Everyone else? Well, there's individual reasons why I don't become easily open with them. Whether it be they're a stranger (no, really?), I don't value their opinion, that in the past it's done more harm than good to talk, etc. The latter is the most common, for me, at least. It seems whenever I'm open with certain people, things just go nuts in the ruts.

On a related note, I'm really fucking sick of hearing people complain all the time and having to listen to it. I don't mind, for the most part, listening to people complain or whatnot about things. Everyone does at some point, you know. But when it's about something petty, and consistently, every day, I get pretty sick of it.
People whine about doing something that isn't even a challenge, just because it's work.
People bitch about how someone else must have caused them unhappiness in some form or another.
People complain about how they aren't appreciated or aren't noticed.
People rant about how horrible their life is, when so many people can tough so much more out.
People whine about being hurt, when they hurt other people.
People complain about not being supported, when they have so many people ready to catch them when they fall.
People bitch about other people not doing their job.

...Please. Just stop. All of it. A little is allright, when it's in reason. Ranting is pretty okay too, because venting is good. But does it have to be constant, triggered in a moment, petty, unimportant, attention seeking, etc?

Don't whine. It degrades your image. It sets you back. It keeps you from making the problem better.

You have to take a step forward someday, or you'll stay in the same spot forever, and pivoting won't do you any good but get you a nice perspective of where you came from.

Learn from your mistakes.
Learn from others mistakes.

Love your mistakes.
Love the solutions more.

Nurture your emotions.
Nurture your heart stronger.

Embrace life.
Embrace yourself.

Later all,
FiveOfSwords